I recently attended an event with a pre-networking component which allowed me to see that some of my networking skills were rusty. I spoke with one woman and quickly realized we had little in common. I knew there was a polite way to leave the conversation so we could both move on to other people but couldn’t recall what it was.
Following this event, I happened upon a booklet put together by PricewaterhouseCoopers with networking tips. I like what they have to say on this topic:
- After a reasonable time networking, comfortably disengage by saying something such as “I don’t want to take up too much of your time. It was great to meet you.”
- Wait until you have just finished speaking before trying to disengage to avoid giving the appearance that you were not interested, were not listening, or did not hear what the person just said. Then politely excuse yourself.
- Whenever possible, introduce the person to someone else in a way that helps create conversation so that the other person is not left standing alone or feeling abandoned.
- Offer a reason for leaving the conversation: “I need to discuss something with a colleague.” Then do what you said you are going to do. Do not go directly to speak with a person nearby – walk away first.
Don’t forget that the person you are speaking to might be a great resource before you move on. Use the opportunity to ask a question that will allow you to leave the conversation. Some examples are: “Do you know anyone here who works as a [fill in career]/works in [fill in location]/has attended [fill in relevant event]?” At the least it provides you a way to move on, at the most it might net you a great contact.
Excellent point! Your post above speaks to this need for clarity and being prepared before you attend a networking event.