I recently spoke at two different workshops dedicated to the perennial question of work-life balance. How do you achieve it? Is it really possible?

A few themes that came up in both conversations revolved around feelings of guilt for leaving work at a reasonable hour or putting one’s needs first, setting boundaries around use of e-mail/technology and how to avoid distraction while at work and at home, and how to carve out time for personal interests and down time in our increasingly busy lives.

Ultimately, I think the solutions can be found in how we set priorities with our time. For me, I have to put a yoga class on my calendar to hold me accountable to practicing yoga. And, I often find that when I’m busiest and consider cancelling this “appointment,” that it’s really a sign that I need to take a break to nurture my mind and body.

It’s when we make time for the things in our lives that are important, but not necessarily urgent, that we often derive the most sense of balance.

Here are some other tips for setting priorities and boundaries in your life:

  • Give yourself a time limit on checking your personal e-mail or Facebook account during the day
  • Take a lunch break, even if it’s just a short walk around the block
  • Keep a small notepad nearby to write down a list of reminders
  • Create a “deadlines” calendar to keep track of your to-do list
  • Map out your weekly priorities list and create a daily action plan
  • Hire a professional organizer to establish order in your home or office
  • Spend 15 minutes a day cleaning or filing
  • Set up automatic bill pay to avoid late payments and penalties
  • Negotiate your workload and communicate your needs to your supervisor

And, perhaps the most important tip: Remember that saying “no” is a leadership characteristic.

Saying “no” to one thing allows you to say “yes” to something else.

In assessing your current responsibilities and priorities, what is one thing weighing you down that you might be able to move off of your plate? What is one small thing you can do today to help you feel a greater sense of balance?